Not Marrying is a Pitfall—Let’s end the obstructions
Peer Faizan Bashir
“I wish I had a dream of the upcoming horrible issues, I would marry my sister even to a limp. The situation is exacerbating each passing day sometimes succumbing to devour the poison and sometimes of strangulating herself with a rope.
‘What to do?’ a man asked to me. His gloomy eyes, face defined by melancholia; tremors, and a series of pathetic events- all were the cues that he was being dragged to suicidal depression by something.
Whilst listening to his words, I couldn’t comprehend what actually he was trying to say. Since being a wee bit confused, I told him- what is the matter at all!? Make no bones about the predicament as I am perceiving!
As he unleashed what had been unnerving and demoralizing him took me aback to such extent that I could hardly control my tears falling down the face with some pain of him and his spinster sister.
“You know, she (his sister) has crossed almost above forty years of age. And, whenever she face a guy for a match, and she has been rejected, derided and being uttered words behind her back like a crone!!,”the man muttered with utter dismay.
“A few days ago, being accustomed as I was to check the whole bungalow of ours before going to sleep to get to know if everything is in accordance, I smelt something cigarette like fragrance; and upon peering from the edge of the window- I got stunned and shocked when I caught sight of my sister puffing something strange and talking to herself that, `Mai barbaad horahe hoon- Mujhsay kon shadi kareyga’ ” (That I am being ruined- who will marry me?), he narrated.
“My legs stumbled-the whole flesh shivered. I rubbed my eyes and ears, but again I came to witness the same thing (afore-mentioned shocking observation). And, after I regain my mental serene, with much introspection and contemplation, I came to the realisation that to defer ourselves from getting married has an ample of disastrous consequences-crippling inside and leading oneself onto the place that he or she had never thought of landing on at once”, the man added. As I was about to ask him of the reasons behind deferring it for her sister, he commenced on weeping and left wretched!
BOTTOM-LINE
Who or what is responsible for delaying marriages? Is it because of some man-made complications in our marriage system that has made it hard for a person to even think of marriage? Is it because of the dowry system- which, I must mention, to the great extent, has been throwing its dreadful effects onto those who hardly manage to make both ends meet?
Is there something obstructing us owing to our mere secret–ruining things that might have happened in past and which further corrodes us all along!? Are there some other reasons?!
The dire need of the hour is to ask ourselves and contemplate over things that obstruct us from marrying at the right time. Having explored the root cause, let us all eradicate it-as long as the things obstructing us are under our control, let’s bring an end to it individually; and if more so the often, the dreadful ones which is spending money unnecessarily, let’s stand up and speak against it collectively for the sake of a destitute. And, hopefully, time is not far that we live with contentment and blissfully.
(The writer is a student hailing from old city)
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