Welcome failure! There is nothing to be afraid of failures
BY JAVAID JAFRI
Every failure is your next opportunity. Failure is the mother of all success.
If you have never failed in your life you have never lived and learned. Just remember that failure is simply an opportunity to begin again with more intelligence. It is probably one of the aspects in life most people are afraid of. But the truth is everyone had failed and everyone will fail again, so don’t be afraid of failure, it is part your roads to success.
One can’t be successful without going through failures and experience comes from failures, while failures may seem inevitable in your venture, there is no need for you to be afraid of them because anyone with a strong determination can turn their failures into huge and towering success.
The word “failure” is the stepping stone to success, many of us say that if a person fails once, he should not lose heart. He must observe the mistakes that led to the failure and try to overcome them in his next attempt… So we should always regard failure as the first stepping stone to success. We all should learn to deal with these small failures. “The one who falls and gets up is so much stronger than the one who never falls.”
Failure is a fun only if we don’t make it permanent so, don’t make it permanent at all. In the long run the term really doesn’t matter! While remembering the golden words of Hazrat Ali(a.s)“Nothing is permanent.” for that we must take into consideration that only I can change my life, the more you fail, the more you will learn, the faster you can produce the result you want and get to your ultimate goals.
The truth is that failure is inevitable, and actually which leads to success. The most famous personalities in their respective fields fail all the time. They have all learnt to take their failure and use them to achieve success.
So, that’s what I mean by failure leads to success. Meanwhile, we all know some of the most successful personalities in this world, while going through their past life which is filled with full of failures in beginning, like Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, Bill gates, Rajnikanth, Dr Abdul Kalam, Sachin Tendulkar and so on.
That is how history has taught us that there are so many who failed at something important and went onto to achieve spectacular successes in their later lives. Failure is the mother of success, sometimes the hardest thing can be admitting you’ve made a mistake. it requires you to go against your own ego, which can be our worst enemy.
While keeping in view the present scenario and present academic results of 10th&12thstandard, the essential message especially to the failed students is that, firstly don’t make it personal at any cost. And Separate it from your identity. Without shadow of doubt it is always better than regret, disappointment, depression, smoking, suicide; and so on, failure is always a next opportunity to us and it also gives us the true confidence so, don’t miss it nor misuse it .
Our teenagers should think over this menace which will not bring any happiness or change in their lives but will surely destroy them internally. Importantly, our young ones should focus on their goals. “NOT A THOUSAND, FIND ONE AND ONLY BIG REASON TO DO WHAT YOU WANT DO, THAT IS ENOUGH TO ACHIEVE GOALS.”
Students should devote their precious time, energy and money to carrier buildings. Parents, teachers, and religious leaders have a key role to guide young ones. Because young ones are considered as the future assets of our society.
When you do something and you fail, learn from the process and treat failure as your feedback to improve. Indeed your failure is telling you something is not right and you need change. When you improve your strategy and do it again, you will get better result, failure is not a person it is just an event. If you fail yesterday, it doesn’t make you a failure today. You will become only a failure if you choose to succumb to it, accept your defeat and give up trying. There are couple of important steps to handle failure-Step (1);- Face it completely with 100% by your heart and mind. Detach yourself from failure and observe it why you failed and don’t give excuses.
Step (2);- Accept it whether it is in front of thousand people or one lakh people just accept it yes, I just failed in this work but not in life.
Step (3); Learn from it. This is most important step because success comes from experiences and experiences comes from failures. Your purpose should be learning whether you win or lose. Your goal in life should be like, what you are becoming inside.
Step (4); Grow out of it. The purpose should be like whether you achieve it or not you should grow out it.
By way of a conclusion as a parent don’t force your children to behave like you, for surely they have been created for a time which is different to your time. Let them decide their own future as per their caliber. Don’t insist them to choose your favorite rather than their own. Please don’t take away their self-confidence and dignity from them, rather than tell them it is ok, it was just an exam/paper nothing more than that. No matter what they score, you love them instead of judge them.
Kindly do this, and watch your children conquer the world and don’t be in a suspension that doctors and engineers are the only happy in this contemporary world. In holy Quran Allah s.w.t mentions that.”Do not lose hope nor be sad, you will surely be victorious if you are true in faith” (3:139)
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