Parents are the best guides
By: Haroon Ibn Rasheed
The secrets of childhood education and training are so long-lasting and strong that they tend to be remembered for life just like the marks on a stone do not erase. This interpretation has been done by an Arabic poet who has done it quite well. Translation: “I forget what I learned when I was old, and what I learned when I was young I have not forgotten yet’.
Children are the future of the nation and we need to introspect on the lives the children are living. There is an urgent need to prepare them to develop all aspects of their personality so that they can become better citizens of the state. Innocent children, smiling buds, flowers of heaven, the splendor of the house, but their training is the responsibility of the parents.
Training includes speaking, sitting, walking, praying and fasting. If the parents live in harmony with each other, then the child will also be like that, and the biggest influence on children is their parents. Then comes the overall environment into play and then his friends.
It is also included in the training that the parents keep an eye on the child’s company. How does he get along with his friends? What is the lifestyle of his friends?
After that comes the education of the child: so it is the duty of the parents to teach their child about religion. Keep in the company of good people in religious schools so that their effects can be read on the child. Narrate the stories of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon them) to the children and tell them how much effort the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon them) took to attain this religion. Make your children accustomed to prayer and all this is the responsibility of the parents
There were mothers who used to tell their children never to tell a lie. Son, you have to do religious work. Son, tell your needs only to your creator. Son, Allah has created you for Himself.
Such great mothers used to be there in the past, but today, if our generation is deteriorating, it is because of bad influences and lack of attention towards the children by mothers. In most of the households mothers have altogether stopped to teach their children the real purpose of life.
The first school of teaching is the lap of the mother. If the mother is pious and honest, the children will also be righteous.
Make your children memorize the Qur’an and find out for yourself the merits of memorizing the Qur’an. The parents of the memorizer of the Qur’an will be crowned on the Day of Resurrection with a crown that will be brighter than the light of the sun. It will be said every day, read the Holy Quran and climb the steps of Heaven, so your place is where you reach the last letter.
There are also examples among our elders who memorized the Holy Quran at the age of three and a half years. When the secret of this was found out, it was found that when the mother sat down to breastfeed her child, she first performed ablution and sat down with the Quran. And she used to recite while breastfeeding, with the blessing of which the child memorized the Holy Quran.
Parents are the biggest reason for the deterioration of our generation today. The generation whose parents dance to the beat of the tabla will be born into the generation of dancers and singers.
If the mothers are great, then the daughters also behave like Rabia Basri (RA). If the mothers are great, then the sons also behave like Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jilani (RA).
Parents should play their role well and make their children noble and dignified and give the best charity for themselves.
May Allah make our children righteous and guide and enable our parents to teach them well. (Ameen).
(The author is a P.G student from Sheikhpora Haril Handwara)
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