The wrong move
Shah Wasil
In Kashmir, the graph of suicidal cases has increased abruptly during the past several years now. There’re many reasons behind this serious matter among which one can be making a wrong career choice.
In our life, there come certain stages where we need to make choices, the choices which make our path for the future, the choice which change our career, the choices which can either lead us to the road of success or to the barren lands of failure.
These choices need to be taken very wisely because it depends upon these made choices of ours that whether our future self will thank us or regret later on ,which obviously at that point of time is of total zero use.
In order to make a proper and feasible choice, what’s most important is to first know ourselves, discover the capabilities we have, to have a look at our strengths areas of interest, to perform a complete analysis of our fields of interest, to be well acquainted with the things which we can do much more by ourselves rather than taking much help from anyone.
During the life of a student, there comes a phase after qualifying tenth examination to choose his subjects for the next two years. The choice made here will determine the field he will be entering. After tenth, he stands at the cross roads of Medical, Non medical, Humanities and Commerce.
The student has to choose his direction of his journey he wants to travel. At times a tenth class student isn’t mature enough to make a correct choice all by himself, so mostly his guardian or his parents make choice on his behalf, which in most cases become a sort of headache for student as his areas of interest would be ignored and parents think much more of themselves, their choices while ultimately it’s the student for whom the choice is being made and who has to face its upcoming consequences.
But some parents, having observed their child take right choice, knowing their child’s ability and making his interest as the main priority, they’re very less in numbers though. So a student has to deal for two constant years in the field for the made choice in class tenth.
Then the destiny provides a second opportunity for students after class 12th.By this time, the student, in addition to undergoing physical growth and maturation has attained mental maturity as well and has the authority in his own hands to choose his future and this choice is what’s going to shape his career for the coming life.
But unfortunately, some pressurized students aren’t able to choose wisely even at this time too because they think of their so called reputation, or sometimes about the people of society. Even some students put their future at stake just by blindly following same the paths and making the same choices as made by best friends, hence ignoring their strength and guess the reply they put forth when being asked the reason for opting this choice, “being together will strengthen our friendship”.
So at the cost of strengthening their friendship (so called), they’re destroying their future with their own hands, in real sense. In many cases, a student opts for a field just because he has the fear of people, the fear whether this society will accept him or not if he follows his interests.
Thus he makes a choice which suits him according to society, and totally silences the voice of interest which obviously yields him nothing but inner chaos, giving an open invitation to a depressed life full of worries and adverse situations which in turn leads to failure and hence by mental ailments and anxieties due to which in most of the cases, students get involved in using drugs and some give up on life and commit suicides.
This is where the biggest flaw lies. At this crucial point of time, they should not consider the opinion of others about them rather they should wholly and solely put themselves, their areas of interest into consideration than caring for society.
Well, if they really want to care, they should care about religion like they should get it cleared whether the career which they’re got to opt for and plan for their future which they’ve in their mind is permissible through the aspects of religion or not.)
Instead of pressurizing them, parents and teachers should try their best to create friendly bonds with the children, especially teenagers. This way, it’ll become easier for them to know what the child wants to pursue or what his future plans are.
Also a very important and much needed thing is counselling. Proper counseling sessions should be started by the institutions, be it by government or by private schools or coaching centers right from class ninth so that it becomes easy for the students to make judicious, well planned right career choice of their own interest after their tenth and twelfth examination. This will help the students to live a peaceful life rather than a life full of worries and regrets.
They’re future of the nation so these choices will decide whether they’ll live a pleasant life and serve their people or a life full of stress and tensions which eventually ends up in depression, drug-addiction and suicides. May it become easy for today’s youth to live a blissful, beautiful and a chaos-free life? Aameen
(The author is a Zoology Honours student)
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