Teaching them to apologize
Vijay Garg
Many child experts believe that children should not be forced to say ‘sorry’ for doing something wrong. However, this does not mean that children should be left to fend for themselves. Adults should take the opportunity to teach children why their behavior was wrong and at the same time learn about good purification. Forcing a small child when he or she bites another child or hurts another child, for example, only forces a lame person to make a ‘sorry’ statement without changing any behavior. So, what can parents and providers do in these situations?
Use bad behavior as a trained turn
Experts have many different views, but generally agree that the child should think about what he or she did wrong, why it was wrong, and the effect of the misbehavior on the other child is the best way to do it?
After your child has thought about their actions, ask them what they can do to correct the situation. Your child may suggest that he has returned the toy. If your child says he is apologizing or asking another child to hug, allow the action because it was his idea and it would be more meaningful and sincere if it was his own idea to say “sorry”. It shouldn’t be thrown away, but kids just don’t understand the meaning of the words, without understanding the reason or what to do about it, it doesn’t solve the big issue.
Improperly label behavior
Parents and providers should clearly tell the child that the behavior was wrong. By doing so, you are teaching a lesson that biting, hitting and stealing toys are not appropriate behavior and are not acceptable. If you ignore the behavior, you are disciplining your child that bad behavior doesn’t really make a difference and it doesn’t have to have any negative consequences.
The model behaves better
Sometimes children don’t know how to improve the situation as parents, you can show good answers. It is important for parents to model good behavior and teach children how to deal with sticky situations. You want to enable your child to see himself as a generous person who has done something wrong or harmful, while he can make things better. Many young children will not be able to find the right words unless this situation occurs several times and they are coached by parents on the way to contact another child.
You can help your child by saying, “We are very sorry that you were sad when you took the risk. He forgot to use his words. Children learn from adults that they are with him.”It is important to teach children how to repair relationships that break up and repair relationships
Talk about emotions
In preschool age, children begin to learn about empathy. When a child realizes that their actions have made another child feel sad or insane, it can have a greater effect than “just being in trouble.” The role of an adult should help a child understand that, first, his actions hurt another child (either physically or emotionally), and then begin the process of accepting responsibility for the child and begin to feel responsible for their actions.
Be consistent with the childcare provider about the reason for saying “sorry”
Consistent discipline allows the child to better understand that rules and regulations are broken, consistent results. If you have an arm, set the discipline aside. If your child is in daycare or preschool, ask them what their approach is when the child acts in a way that is not acceptable. Parents and child care providers should convey the same message to children about their behavior. Good communication is a way to help a child understand the reason for feeling that way.
Remember to show love
Never love a child for doing something wrong. Remember the old adage, “I love you, not just your behavior.” When a child does something you don’t like, say something like, “I don’t like the fact that you took a toy car when your brother was playing with it. We can’t take toys without asking. We Help her? “Forced apologies don’t really change behavior (children or adults) and only make the child feel embarrassed and angry. The best thing is that your child needs to admit it. That’s what they did
(The author is a Retired Principal based at Malout Punjab)
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